I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get so busy with the “big” issues of life that I don’t take the time to savor all the little things that bring joy to life. Big things can overpower the little things, or we can find ourselves too busy to “stop and smell the roses” so to speak.
My children are mostly adults now, and my youngest is quickly approaching adulthood. I can look back on their childhoods and remember spending time with them and playing, but now I wish I had done more of that. So what if the house wasn’t clean or the dishes done, they will only be young once. I remember dancing with them in my arms when they were babies; playing with playdoh at the kitchen table (my mother-in-law was almost shocked when I bought playdoh for my daughter’s third birthday 🙂 ); crawling around on the floor playing “Bambi”, and getting a headache when they wanted to play fight like deer; spending time outside teaching them to ride bicycles, or rollerblade. Those were great times and I cherish the memories. And it is the little things that I remember too.
I remember the baby kisses, enjoying the bath-fresh baby smell, the smiles, the laughter, the hugs, and kisses; I remember listening to them read and feeling happy that I was the one that taught them that skill; enjoying the flowers that someone would pick for me; seeing the joy on faces when they would get or give a gift.
And I still try to remember the little things and enjoy them now. We have some hilarious dinner conversations, and as one daughter put it–“It’s not a true dinner with our family until at least one person is laughing so hard that they are crying.” Just spending time together over the dinner table or after dinner in the living room is special in this hectic world.
If I could go back I would try to savor all those little moments. But I have to be happy with the memories of the ones that I can remember, and try to savor the ones that I have now, such as a hug and an “I love you, Mom” from one of my girls, or holding hands with my hubby, or enjoying the laughter that comes with those dinner conversations.
I am very blessed and not nearly as thankful to God as I should be. He gave me an awesome family and I too often take it for granted or whine and complain because something is not going the way that I want it to.
So my advice to you, whether you have young children or your children are older: enjoy the time with them and with your family and savor each moment and memory. Who but the Lord knows how long you will have with them?
People always say, particularly older people, how time goes so fast. I can see that now as I am getting older. Why it seems like just a few days ago that I got married, or held each new baby girl in my arms, or saw the first daughter graduate from high school…
As that country song says…”don’t blink.”